Toss Away the ‘Could Haves’ and ‘Should Haves’ Day
Today is a chance to move forward with intention and leave behind what no longer serves you.
- Roots
- Created by author and motivational speaker Martha J. Ross-Rodgers
- Vibe
- Positive, reflective, liberating
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- Hashtag
- #TossAwayThe8216CouldHaves8217And8216ShouldHaves8217Day
3 ways to celebrate
Write and release
List your regrets on paper, then tear it up and let them go.
Share and shred
Everyone writes one regret, shares it, and shreds it together.
Start a fresh list
Write down one new goal to replace an old regret.
Plan ahead
Toss Away the ‘Could Haves’ and ‘Should Haves’ Day is observed on the third Saturday in July. Here is where it lands for the next ten years, handy for planners, marketers and party people.
Fast facts
The story
Toss Away the 'Could Haves' and 'Should Haves' Day encourages individuals to release the burdens of missed opportunities and regrets. Created by author and motivational speaker Martha J. Ross-Rodgers, this observance serves as a reminder that dwelling on past decisions can hinder personal growth. Instead, it invites participants to focus on positive actions they can take moving forward. Every year, on the third Saturday of July, people across the nation engage in activities aimed at embracing the present.
Read the full story
The day offers a unique opportunity to reflect on personal aspirations without the weight of regret. Individuals are encouraged to write down their perceived failures, those 'could haves' and 'should haves', and ceremoniously dispose of them, symbolizing a fresh start. This practice not only fosters a sense of liberation but also promotes emotional healing. Many find solace in sharing their experiences with friends or family, creating a supportive environment for personal growth.
Community events often spring up around this observance, where people gather to share stories of bravery and vulnerability. Whether it’s a local coffee shop hosting a discussion group or a park picnic with friends, the spirit of the day is one of camaraderie and understanding. Participants are urged to engage in new activities, whether it’s picking up a forgotten hobby or tackling a long-held dream. This proactive approach helps individuals to break free from the chains of regret.
As Toss Away Day approaches, organizations and schools are starting to recognize its value. Programs focused on mental health and well-being are integrating the day into their calendars, encouraging discussions around self-acceptance and future aspirations. The emphasis is on cultivating a culture where individuals feel empowered to take risks and chase their dreams, free from the shadows of past decisions.
Did you know?
The Birth Year
This observance was created by Martha J. Ross-Rodgers.
Regret Statistics
Many people feel regret about life choices.
Mindfulness Benefits
Practicing mindfulness reduces anxiety about the past.
Common Regrets
Not pursuing passions is a leading regret.
Cultural Impact
Countries worldwide celebrate similar days.
Therapeutic Practices
Writing about regrets can aid emotional health.
Community Engagement
Local gatherings promote sharing and healing.
Around the world
Every culture celebrates a little differently.
- USUnited StatesJoin Americans in letting go of regrets.
- CACanadaPromote self-acceptance across the border.
- GBUnited KingdomReflect on missed chances with friends.
- AUAustraliaCelebrate personal growth and new beginnings.
- NZNew ZealandEncourage a culture of living in the moment.
- DEGermanyEngage in community discussions about aspirations.
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